How to make stress your friend?

Way #1

 

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Step1: Identify the thoughts that stress you.

 

You may have negative thoughts that are unhelpful. These thoughts cause your body to release stress hormones and make you worry. If there's a bear in front of you, it's normal for you to be stressed. But if you're just overly worried about being late for a traffic jam, there's no need. Identifying a stressed-out thought is as simple as seeing if it fits into one of the following categories:

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1. Should: You've made a list of "should" or "can't" things, and you're feeling stressed or upset because you didn't follow through.

2. Make a mountain out of a molehill: You expect the worst or tend to exaggerate. Even a small problem becomes a "terrible" thing, or a "disaster."

3. Overly extreme thinking: You see everything as black and white. You don't see the "grey areas" or the complexity of human life. You only have extremes of right and wrong. There is no middle ground.

4. Falling for nothing: You find that you are constantly bringing fear into your mind, such as "what if the child gets hurt", "what if you fall", or "what if you are late".

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Step 2: Reorganize your thoughts.

 

Sometimes stress is just a matter of opinion. Pessimism and depression are a very typical and avoidable source of stress. Instead of focusing on the negative and the problems that are upsetting you, focus on the positive.

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Negative thoughts lead to negative emotions, and positive thoughts create positive emotions. When you're feeling down, pay attention to your thoughts. What have you been thinking about? Try to change negative thoughts into positive ones.

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For example, you might think, "I'll never get everything done." Try thinking, "If I maintain a steady flow of work and take regular breaks, I can finish this task in a few hours."

When you change your opinion, your stress level will change. Try to look at things from a positive perspective and avoid a cynical one.

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Step 3: Change negative thoughts.

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Another way to combat stressful thoughts is to ask yourself if they are true. Challenging and disputing these ideas can help you put them in perspective. This way you don't accept these thoughts as facts and accept them right away.

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Step 4: Try writing down two types of problems that are bothering you.

 

Group the evidence that verifies anxious thoughts into one category and the evidence that refutes those thoughts into another. If you don't have the paper or time to write these things down, try to mentally write them down.

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Step 5: Write a diary.

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Although journaling can feel strange and boring, writing down your thoughts on a regular basis can help you deal with stress. When you're struggling with some emotional or mental stress, keep a journal of it. Writing them down may give you a sense of relief that you might not get any other way. 

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Write down your thoughts truthfully and fearlessly. Your diary belongs to you alone. You don't have to give it to anyone to read. No one knows what's really pressuring you. Your journal is a judgment-free haven from which you can vent all your worries, emotions and emotions. [16] Once you've written your thoughts down, you're no longer obsessively thinking about them.

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Journaling can help you clear your mind and identify the source of stress. Write down your problems as a way to clear your mind. When your mind is confused, you can't think very well, so you feel confused and stressed. If there are two different solutions to a problem and you don't know which one to choose, write down the pros and cons in two columns. Divide a piece of paper into two parts and write down the two solutions on each piece of paper. Then choose the best one.

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Way #2

 

Step 1: Become a more organized person.

 

Sometimes people get nervous because they don't know what to do. Use a notepad to write down what you need to do. Clean up your desk and search the Internet for ways to help you at work or around the house. Get your life organized and set your priorities right. This way you can break down responsibilities into more manageable parts and focus on what's really important.

 

Step 2: Learn to say "no".

 

You can't do everything that is asked of you, so why pretend that you can? In fact, the more times you break your word, the fewer people will think you're reliable. Be decisive. Say "no" politely but firmly. Keep track of your schedule so you can determine if you have the time or ability to complete additional tasks.

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Assertive people look people in the eye when speaking for themselves, and speak in a clear but non-threatening tone. If you know you're overloaded, just tell someone the truth. It's OK to say "no" as long as you have enough respect for others.

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Some people take on too much because they are afraid of missing out on exciting new opportunities. However, because they expend their energy on a variety of tasks and activities, they do not reach the level that they should. Carefully weigh the pros and cons of your new responsibility and decide if it's worth the effort based on your current workload.

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WAY #3

Step 1: Clean up.

 

Being surrounded by a messy environment can affect even the most mentally solid of people. If your house, bedroom, or car is too messy or dirty, your happiness level will definitely take a hit. Take a few minutes to sort out the most messy areas and you'll get some mental relief. Here are some tips to help you prevent clutter 

• Instead of piling up items that are rarely used or of no value, it's better to throw them away.

• Do some cleaning with family or friends. Not only does it take less time to clean with others, it's also more fun.

• Sort through papers and mail, throw out the useless, and archive the useful. Organize files and emails regularly to prevent them from piling up.

• Find a regular place to keep your frequently used items so that you can easily find them when you need them.

 

Step 2: Take a few minutes to get ready.

 

If you don't take the time to get yourself ready, you're likely to feel unprepared for the day. Take a few extra minutes in the morning to get ready for the day's activities. Take a shower, put on your favorite clothes, and get ready for all the challenges of the day. 

 

Step 3: Try aromatherapy.

 

What you smell can actually change your stress level. Scientific studies have found that the scent of lavender and citrus can reduce stress and anxiety levels. Spray a lavender-scented air freshener in your home, office or car, or spray an essential oil on your hair and skin in the morning before heading out the door. You can also rub a little essential oil on your temples to relieve a stress-induced headache. 

 

Step 4: Talk to new people.

 

Your stress may come from the people you're talking to. You don't have to avoid them completely, but you can meet different people. New people will open your eyes to new ideas that you haven't seen before, but they may also bring new stress to you.

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Step 5: Try relaxing activities

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Some people like taking a bath, others like taking a shower. Take a warm bubble bath and read a book with a drink. No matter which type you are, this should be a treat. If you're stressed, try soaking in the tub for a while. A warm bath will relax your muscles and relieve stress.

 

When we're anxious or nervous, it's easy to put aside our interests and focus on what's important to us. But not having any free time can actually make you more nervous. Pick up your old hobby, play a sport you enjoy, read an art journal, or go for a hike. Give yourself time to do things you enjoy, and you'll feel refreshed and better able to deal with stressors.

 

If you don't have any old hobbies that you'd like to pick up, or none at all, try an activity that interests you. It is never too late to learn. Try auditing classes at a local college or looking for other classes. It's better to learn something new, like a language or a craft, and improve that skill with practice. Learning something new forces you to take your mind off the stressor, making it easier to relax.

 

Sunlight is an all-natural antidote to depression, which can cause anxiety and stress. [31] Even if you don't get the sun, Mother Nature is a great stress reliever just by getting outside. Go for a walk in the park, go hiking in the mountains, go fishing, anything else that interests you. It's hard to feel stressed when you're moving your body while enjoying the natural scenery.

 

They say laughter is the best medicine. It's probably hard to laugh when you're nervous or anxious, but try to laugh every day and you'll see a big difference. Turn on your favorite sitcom, watch funny online videos, or spend time with funny friends. Laughing releases stress-relieving hormones in the brain, which can make you feel better in an instant.

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